Why High-Vibration Advice Backfires When You're Depleted
How to Manifest When You're Already Exhausted › Lesson 2 of 6
You've heard it a hundred times.
- Raise your vibration.
- Match the frequency of what you want.
- Feel good now and the good things follow.
- If it isn't showing up, check your energy.
Here's the part nobody wants to talk about... The problem isn't the advice because the advice is real and it works. However, we often forget who the advice is geared toward.
Normal manifesting advice is often assumed that you're starting from neutral or maybe you've got a little margin, a small reserve of energy to work with. Maybe we assume that "feel good now" is a switch you can simply turn on anytime.
But when you're depleted, you can't simply be happy. I mean you could if you wanted to but when you are depleted, you just don't want to. You often want to take a period of time to feel like shit. We all do and there is nothing wrong with a period of self desperation, loneliness, and all the horrible feelings. These are a part of normal life.
What actually happens when you try it
You read the posts online, watch all the motivational videos and you decide today's the day you finally get this right!
So you put on the perfect playlist and start writing your affirmations. If you are like me, maybe you look in the mirror and you try to feel like the version of you who already has the money, the health, the peace, and the marriage that works. You hype yourself up. You take the power walk with your headphones on. Tears flow down your face in a moment of utter happiness!
And for about nine minutes, it kind of works. You are on top of the world!
Then your phone buzzes. You remember the email you didn't send. Your kid needs sock and your spouse wants to talk about politics. By 10 a.m. you're back where you started, except now it's worse, because you tried and it didn't stick.
You talk down to yourself. The tiredness is still there, and now there's a second thing sitting on top of it. A bullshit story about how "I couldn't even do the easy part."
It seems like life backfires on you. The advice of all the motivational speakers didn't lift you up at all... All they did was hand you one more balloon to juggle.
The Top 3 Reasons Why High-Vibration States Backfire in the Beginning
Reason one: Pretending isn't free.
Holding on to a feeling that you don't have right now takes effort. It actually takes a tremendous amount of real grit and determination int he beginning. We have all smiled through situations that sucked so we already know the feeling of trying to hold it together during adversity. When you try to 'Put on a happy face', you often come home from that kind of day even more wrecked than if you'd just felt your real emotions in the first place.
So when you're already running on empty and someone tells you to generate an elevated emotional state on command, they're asking you to spend effort that you don't have. Effort is the whole problem. You can't fix an effort shortage by spending more effort.
Reason two: It turns into surveillance
Once you decide that a high vibrational state is the thing standing between you and your dream life, quite often, you might start watching... and judging.
How am I feeling right now?
Is this high enough, God? Did I just have a negative thought? Did I just cancel it out?
Now you're monitoring your own mood all day like a nurse checking vitals. Monitoring yourself is something you will need to do, of course but in the beginning, you have to find a balance. In the beginning, you need to be able to feel how you feel and be ok with it.
Reason three: It puts the blame in the worst possible place
If your energy is the reason nothing's changing yet, then the tiredness isn't just tiredness anymore. It's the main obstacle. It's the reason your life looks the way it does. It's your own fault, and it's happening inside you, so there seems to be nowhere to put it down.
Running on four hours of sleep and coffee will only sustain you for so long. This is called 'Living in survival mode.'
Here is an analogy. Think about your phone at 5%. It doesn't need a pep talk. It doesn't need you to tell it to just have more battery life. What it needs is a damn charger, and until it gets one, every app you open costs more energy than the phone has.
But unlike you... Your phone doesn't feel guilty or overwhelmed about this. It handles the situation on automatic pilot and with ease. It simply goes into low power mode, drops the brightness, stops the background noise, and keeps the one thing running that actually matters.
Nobody calls the phone lazy for that. That would be absurd. The phones #1 job is to stay on and connected. When it sees that it can no longer sustain a life of brightness, it shuts down everything except what it needs to survive. Do you see where I'm going with this?
So what do we do instead
You don't need a higher vibration in the early stages of manifesting. You need a lower demand on your energy.
A small but true feeling will beat a big fake one every single time. Relief is a real feeling and it's available even at 5%. Know what else is real and true? - The quiet stillness that shows up the second you sit down and close your eyes. No Distractions. No one calling for your attention.
Quiet Stillness aren't something you reward yourself with. They aren't consolation prizes. On the contrary, meditation is the actual entry point. It's your way to plug into life's phone charger. It's the way to start at 5% and start recharging your batteries.
Before we get there, though, it helps to know what's happening in your body when you're worn down.
That's next.
